First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes baby and a blog..
Hi All! Welcome to my very first post! Wow! I've been wanting to write a blog for quite some time now, and fear has always gotten the best of me. Now, after attending a wonderful event called #WeAllGrowFamilia, were I met tons of inspiring bloggers, and a week later going to and listening to an inspirational speech from the wonderful, Tony Robbins, I said "Why not? What's the worse that can happen?" So, here is my baby! If you love it great! If you think I'm just a crazy mom, that's cool too! I aspire to share my stories of my journey in motherhood, marriage, and being a full time working woman in order to inspire others to open up and share and learn, we are not alone!
First things first, if you have no idea who this crazy lady is, here's a little bit about myself.
The name is Yesica (pronounced like Jessica, just with a Y), I am in my early 30's, very early 30's, okay I'm 30! I come from a Latino single parent household, I am the eldest of 4 (the youngest only being 8). I had a very interesting (to say the least) upbringing, I was constantly bullied in school to a point that I dropped out of high school before I was 18 and started working full time. Working was great (or so I thought), I was able to help out my single mother financially and I enjoyed the perks of having a little bit of cash (what teen wouldn't). Any who, my husband inspired me to go back to school and gave me the option of going back to get my high school diploma or enrolling in college. I chose the bigger challenge and started college (something that my young self never imagined). Well turns out, I loved school, I loved college, and I loved connecting with people. After earning my AA in Business, I transferred to Cal State Los Angeles and obtained my Bachelors degree in business. Little ol' me with a college degree, the first one in my family to graduate from a university.
Two weeks after graduating, I set foot on the next big chapter of my life marrying my long term boyfriend, George (I waited 10 years for this moment). A year later we welcomed our biggest pride and joy, Emily. Becoming a mother has probably been the biggest joy and challenge that I've ever faced. Early on after giving birth, I was hit with post postpartum depression, there would be moments that I would just cry from feeling so lost and alone. I always tell my new mommies "make sure someone is there to help you, inspire you, and tell you, you are doing a great job!" As first time mommies, we get so lost focusing on the baby "is the baby eating," "are they sleeping too long," "why are they crying?" that we forget about ourselves. A counselor once told me "in order for your baby to be good, you have to take care of yourself first." True story, you have to take care of you! Man, you take these birthing classes, breastfeeding classes, baby everything classes but, what about "your life (and body) after birth? It was a rude awakening for me and it took me a long time to surpass my depression.
Talking about it to other women and opening up to what I was going through helped me so much! The more I opened up, the more I realized that us women have so much in common! I found so much comfort in opening up and hearing other women tell me their stories and finding all of these mommy groups and events . That's were this blog came into mind, I felt the need to share my stories, I needed to let women know that they are not alone! To invite them to connect with me, share with me, and even join me on my mommy adventures! If it reaches many, great, if it's just me alone going on crazy rants, that's fine too! I'm just happy to take this first step and I look forward to evolving and improving over time! I hope you all enjoy these crazy stories!
Go Yesica!!! Wishing you the very best in this new venture!! I'm so sorry to hear about your HS bullying, I had no idea! So happy you overcame that and had such great support from George. Can't wait to hear about your next topic/rant. :)ReplyDelete
You go girl. Looking forward to reading your rants and stories.ReplyDelete
I am super proud of you Jess!! It's not easy opening up to the world about your life !! Can't wait read some more and get inspired !!ReplyDelete
YES YOU CAN!!!!ReplyDelete
Sounds like you have an amazing husband ;)ReplyDelete
Great intro Babe! Love you.
Very interesting we have a lot in common. I’m also the oldest of 4. You’ve still is 19. My parents were apart of my entire childhood & adulthood— very strict parents by the book. I am a single mother of a soon to be 7 year old. The topic of depression hits so close to home. What I thought was me spiraling into PPD was short lived. 6 months after my son was born my husband of 3 yrs, partner of 10 years decided he was no longer happy. I was left a single mother 6 months after my son was born. I didn’t get a chance to have PPD. I didn’t give myself the chance of PPD. I was left confused, lonely, unstable but I didn’t see it as PPD. I was in complete senile that this was happening to me. At 9 months I began an even bigger battle. Having to let my son go with his dad every other weekend. I couldn’t bare it. I’d sty home alone and cried as soon as I got home on Friday. I’d stay home all alone till Sunday. I’d clean things that didn’t need to be cleaned, wash things that didn’t need washing. I’d even walk my 3 dogs in my backyard all weekend. I could not wait till it was time to pick him up Sunday night. I did that to myself till almost 3. But my weekends with him were filled with joy. I went everywhere with him. No one knew what I didn’t on my weekends alone.ReplyDelete
- I can go on & on with all the things I’ve gone thru since becoming a mother and I can truly say that “you have to take care of yourself. No one else will”. I remember very clearly remembering the flight attendant on my last flight when I was 5 months pregnant “in the event of an emergency you must first take care of yourself in order to help others”— if that isn’t the best analogy for what motherhood is I don’t know what is. I’m still learning ways to do that. I encourage my friend who are married to take care of themselves all the time.
Looking forward to following your blog Jess